Many people call or email telling me they have been doing EFT for a while and can’t seem to get to the root of the problem. When you tap on and say “Even though I’m depressed, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”, the statement is too general. You can start from the body and just notice where in your body do you feel this depression. So if it’s in your stomach, what emotion is stuck there? Is it anger, hurt, pain, rejection or just wanting to give up?
If so, make sure you use the intensity scale 0-10 (high intensity of emotion)
I had a client who came to me and she was depressed because she keeps picking men who are emotionally unavailable. The tapping took us to her father who was never there for her. He sometimes not only would emotionally abuse her but also hit her for no reason. She was still angry with him. And it was a ’10′ intensity and she felt it in her stomach.
So we worked on:
“ Even though I’m still angry at my father for not being there for me and I feel it in my stomach, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”
“ Even though I still feel the pain how he abused me…”
“ Even though I remember his face so angry at me when I didn’t do anything wrong that time…”
- Eyebrow- I’m angry at the way he would yell at me
- Side of Eye- I was so scared
- Under Eye- his voice paralyzed me
- Under Nose- there was nothing I could do
- Chin-I was just a little girl
- Collarbone- it wasn’t my fault
- Under Arm- I’m angry that he took advantage of my vulnerability
- Top of Head- His voice sent fear throughout my body
- Eyebrow- I can still feel it now
- Side of Eye- this remaining fear of back then
- Under Eye-its in my body
- Under Nose- I’m so afraid to tell him how I feel
- Chin- he still scares me
- Collarbone- I scare myself that I am still giving him this power
- Under Arm- I’m still giving my power away wanting acceptance
- Top of Head- I just want him to love me
We tapped on a few more rounds and the intensity went down when she started to get perspective that by holding on to still wanting her fathers love wasn’t going to give her peace. She realized that looking for love on the outside doesn’t make her feel better because most probably he will not change. So after we tapped a few more times the energy shifted to “I feel sad that he couldn’t give me what I needed and deserved”. And she moved it into “its time to tend to that little girl and love her completely”. She became the adult to take care of that little girl that had been abandoned all these years. The emotional stomach pain went away.
If you can relate or have a similar story and you want to clear up your stuck feelings in your childhood, email me at : annie@roadtoemotionalfreedom.com and I will help you. Also, get my free “How to do EFT guide” by signing up to the right.
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Love and Light,
Annie
