Once pain overwhelms our coping skills, we cross over from “having pain” into SUFFERING. And that’s where the situation gets really bad.

You want to reach for help. But who? Or what? I mean, late night infomercials just ain’t gonna cut it when the suffering gets intense.

What if relief is right at your finger tips… if only someone would show you how?

If you have done tapping before or new to tapping here is a session you can do to relieve your pain

To look at the tapping points click here

Measure your intensity of the pain on a scale from 0( no pain)-10 (intense pain)

Karate chop

Even though I have this pain in my ________ and I can’t sleep, I need my rest, I  accept all my feelings

Even though this pain in my________ is annoying and I don’t know where it came

It’s 3 am. You are awake, and you HURT. Alone in the dark, trying to rest, exhausted from the pain… where can you turn at this hour? All these negative emotions flare up and start rambling around inside your head… “I’ll never get better … Why me?! … What did I do to deserve this? … What if it never gets better?”

I’ve been there… too many times.

Hi, my name is Rick Wilkes, and I co-created the program Pain Relief with EFT with Carol Look because I know what it is like to have maxed out the pain meds and still desperately need relief. I know what it is like to be stuck in a vicious cycle and not see a way out.

It is so easy to be distressed, depressed, and full of despair. Pain gets to us. Once pain overwhelms our coping skills, we cross over from “having pain” into SUFFERING. And that’s where the situation gets really bad.

You want to reach for help. But who? Or what? I mean, late night infomercials just ain’t gonna cut it when the suffering gets intense.

What if relief is right at your finger tips… if only someone would show you how?

When I found Energy Tapping (EFT) for myself back in 2003, it worked so well for my pain that I was initially INCENSED that it had been around for a decade, tens of thousands of people like me were using it daily, and I had suffered needlessly through way too many long nights… when a few minutes of guided tapping could have brought me such relief!

If you’re in pain now (or love someone who is), what I can tell to you from personal experience is that this “tapping thing” is a potent form of self-healing. Isn’t it worth a try?

Here’s how it works at 3 am…

The Pain Relief with EFT program is like a special kind of medicine chest… a Vibrational Medicine Chest. Perhaps you remember the song Good Vibrations? Well, when we’re suffering, our vibration is far, far from good. So, at 3 am you take a deep breath, pick the vibration that matches how you feel, and follow along as Carol and I gently walk you through the simple tapping exercise. It takes only a few minutes.

I found tapping to be so incredibly useful that I studied it extensively. I traveled and learned from masters like Carol Look. Over the past seven years I’ve introduced tens of thousands of people to the power of tapping through my coaching work and websites. In my professional experience, those who learn tapping also learn how to self-manage their pain at a level they never imagined possible.

It’s 2 pm on a Saturday. You are home alone (again) while everyone else is out enjoying life. You don’t have the energy to fight through the pain and pretend to enjoy the social chit-chat. You are in that awful state of boredom combined with intense suffering. You are tired of making excuses, and you’re worried that your friends and family are going to give up on you. That fear makes you tense… which only makes the pain worse.

Instead of being frustrated and stuck where you are, what if you used this time to clear some of the chronic negative emotions and fears? What if 5-20 minutes of your time could shift how you feel about yourself, your situation, and your future… or at the least allow you to rest more deeply?

“Rick Wilkes and Carol Look’s new program Pain Relief with EFT allows you to tap into the experience and insight of two of the best pain relief specialists. They take you through the process of releasing the emotional blocks that keep you stuck and hinder the body’s ability to move toward well-being. Listening to the audio recordings or reading the e-book brings you into a world where the problems are much clearer. Subconscious beliefs are shown with clarity and compassion as they are released. New, healthier beliefs take their place, and you find resilience and relief.” -Cathy Vartuli, PhD

It’s 1 pm on Thursday. You are at work. Your pain is making it hard to focus, and you really need to finish this project. You take a deep breath. What do you do?

You could struggle through (like you’ve always done in the past), but you know you don’t do your best work when you feel this way. Instead, you decide to use the new techniques you’re learning in Pain Relief with EFT. You tune into your body for relief guidance (we show you how). Then you quickly skim the list of limiting beliefs from the program, and one pops out at you.

Even though you didn’t realize it consciously until now, part of you felt worried that you weren’t good enough to be successful with this project. You listen and tap along for less than 5 minutes as Carol guides you through tapping on Limiting Belief #15: I Can’t Do Anything Right.

You notice that the urge to procrastinate is gone. The positive tapping at the end of the recording helps you feel more upbeat. Your energy is now vibrating in a way that gives you an improved ability to focus on your project.

You start feeling calmer. Your pain isn’t nearly as bad. You take a deep breath, maybe get a drink of water, and decide you can do the project one small step at a time. Perhaps you take breaks to tap a few more times when you feel a bit overwhelmed or impatient or anxious (the program has recordings for all of these emotional states… and more), and after the tapping you are able to complete more than you expected. (Some parts of the work are even enjoyable… for a change!)

You finish your work for the day and go home, knowing that you were productive, that you will have a lot more energy and love for your family (rather than bringing home an exhausted, frustrated, and grumpy self), and most importantly, that you took another step along the road to well-being!

Many of you are still holding onto hurt and pain from the past. Some of you have anger and resentment towards others and still blame them for your pain. And some of you are still angry with yourself for ex: staying in the relationship longer than you wanted to, or sabotaging yourself out of fear of allowing love to come into your life for lack of deserving issues.

I recommend lighting a candle and let a stream of consciousness flow through you as you write from your heart and your gut what you are still holding onto. By doing this, you will release those stuck feelings that have been bottled up inside that keep you from letting love into your life.

Back in the days, I have used this letter (and redesigned it) for each relationship that I still had left over pain, hurt and regrets about. Not only did I write a letter to that person (and not send it), I also wrote a love letter to myself and it was so cathartic that it freed me from being trapped and unable to love again.

So, I recommend this be a process. Take your time and start with the person in your life you feel most incomplete with. Maybe play some heart music like Peter Kater.  Each letter is hand written from your heart. I call this holy work.

So begin by expressing your anger, resentment and blame and allow yourself to move through the other levels until you get down to understanding, forgiveness and love.

1. ANGER AND BLAME

- I hate it when…
-I’m still angry that…
-I’m furious that…
-It’s your fault that…

2. HURT AND SADNESS

-It saddens me that…
-I still feel the hurt or it hurts me when…
-I feel awful because…
-I feel so disappointed that….

3. FEAR AND INSECURITY

-I’m afraid that…
-I feel scared because…
-It makes me feel not good enough to….
-I didn’t feel visible and heard because…
-I don’t feel safe to….

4. GUILT AND RESPONSIBILITY

-I feel guilty that…
-I’m sorry that…
-I’m sorry for…
-I didn’t mean to…
-I realize that…

5. MY INTENTION

-I want…
-I deserve…
-I need….
-I choose to…
-I make a promise that…

6. FORGIVENESS, PERSPECTIVE, UNDERSTANDING AND LOVE

-please forgive me…
-I forgive you…
-I love you because…
-Thank you for…

He said not long ago he had a hernia operation and then he got bronchitis. He said it hurt every time he would cough. And he had shortness of his breath.

He still sometimes has a hard time breathing when he goes up the steps or when he speaks too much. His fear was that he was afraid that he would wake up in the middle of the night and wouldn’t be able to breath and would panic and not know what to do. I asked him where did he feel that anxiety and he said in the back of his throat and chest. So we tapped on what he was feeling in the moment and the anxiety was a 6.

So here is what we tapped on:

Karate chop point:

Even though I’m afraid I will be awakened in the middle of the night and won’t be able to breath I accept all my feelings

Even though I’m afraid I won’t be able to breath and this reminds me of what happened last time, I love and accept all my feelings past and present anyway

Even though I’m going to be high altitude and I have this anxiety that I won’t be in control of my breath, especially in the middle of the night, I choose to be at calm and peace with myself no matter what

Eyebrow- this fear of not being able to breath in the middle of the night
Side of Eye- it’s scary to me
Under the Eye- this anxiety that I won’t be able to breath
Under the Nose- I’m scared I won’t be able to breath like last time
Chin- this fear I’ll need oxygen
Collarbone- I felt out of control last time
Side of rib- this fear it’ll happen again
Top of head-I choose to take a deep breath now

So it went from a 6 to a 2 in intensity. We didn’t tap on bringing in positive statements until the next round. When you have a high number, you don’t want to put in positive statements until your intensity scale goes to at least a 5 and below. Why? Because your saboteur will stop you from feeling better and won’t believe that you can be free of the debilitating problem. Our saboteur needs a platform to say the way it feels…to be listened to. And then… it can relax and trust that each moment is a new fresh experience and what happened last time…happened…and it’s in the past and it’s over and you’re ok now.

So the next rounds were about allowing his breath to be a God given right and that old experience was in the past and he is ok now. His choice was to allow his body be in control the way it knows how to and bring calm and peace throughout the night.

He said he felt so much better. I asked him to close his eyes and imagine being in Vail and lying in bed and he had no anxiety imagining it. He felt free of the anxiety in the the back of his throat and his chest and said he would use tapping if any leftovers came up. He had a sense of calm and at peace and in control.

Hope this article can be useful to you. You can just change the words and use words of your own.

Keep tapping,
Annie

What are you medicating?  What are you not addressing that is eating you up inside?  You didn’t even want the cookie but you needed that oral satisfaction for some kind of compensation… the pain from all the loss in your life…all the wasted time…all the unhealthy choices you made in your life.

Many of you are juggling work with taking care of a family, cooking, supporting a household and giving so much of your energy to other people and don’t feel appreciated. Is this burden of responsibility causing overwhelming anxiety for you?  Maybe you’re just bored and waiting for someone to come into your life so you don’t have to be alone anymore?  Does this resonate with you?

So to be alone with that cookie/cookies, doesn’t really satisfy “the lack of” space.

But what if… you allowed more space inside yourself to be filled up with deep appreciation for just the human being that you are? Appreciation that you have feelings and that you are doing the best you can for this moment given all your knowledge and experience in your life?  Hmmm…interesting how we never appreciate ourselves for the things we HAVE done that we’re proud of. We only look at what we failed at.

Now getting back the the symbol of the cookie…

Take a cookie in your hand and smell it and on a 0 (don’t want it)-10 (you really want the cookie) point scale measure the intensity

Now put the cookie down

Tap on the Karate Chop Point (side of hand)

“Even though I want this cookie and I’m not hungry but I’m bored, I love and accept myself anyway”
“Even though I don’t really want this cookie and I feel guilty that I’m about to eat it, I accept who I am and how I feel”
“Even though my truth in this moment is I don’t really care, I’m going to eat it anyway, and that’s ok with me, no one is watching, I accept and love myself anyway”

Tapping Points

Eyebrow- I feel guilty eating this cookie
Side of eye- I shouldn’t feel guilty
Under the eye- But I do
Under the nose- Do I really want this cookie? No one is watching
Chin-I feel anxious cause I know I will regret it
Collarbone- Don’t tell me not to eat this cookie
Top of head- I know I’m going to want another one

Close your eyes and take a D-e-e-p  B-r-e-a-t-h

Rate your intensity 0-10     Notice the shift

“Even though a part of me wants this cookie, I choose to make a healthier choice”
“Even though a part of me really wants this cookie, the truth is I’m not hungry”
“Even though I just want comfort right now, I choose to make a comfortable healthier choice”

Eyebrow- A part of me wants this cookie
Side of eye- It’s never satisfying enough
Under the eye- I’m not hungry
Under the nose- What if the truth is, that it’s not the cookie I want?
Chin- I don’t really want this cookie
Collarbone-I choose to release this pressure that I have to eat this cookie
Side of ribs- It feels soooo much better releasing the pressure
Top of Head- the truth is I don’t want this cookie and it feels good to get back on track!

Close your eyes and take a d-e-e-p b-r-e-a-t-h…

Measure again on intensity scale and notice if the numbers went down. Keep tapping if they are staggering until you make the right choice for you.

Carna Zacharias-Miller created a tapping meditation to send healing to the Gulf region. I wish to share this meditation with you. Carna suggests that you say the words out loud since invocations and healing blessings are more powerful this way. Begin by tapping on the Karate Chop spot for the “even though” statements, then tap through the points as you continue. You can listen to the podcast and download the meditation portion at www.eftfree.net/podcasts (scroll down).

A Tapping Process for Healing

Tap on the Karate Chop Point

Even though we feel shocked, sad and angry about the Oil Spill in the Gulf,
we choose to stay calm and balanced and loving anyway.

Even though this brings so much pain and hardship to many, we open the door to healing now.

Even though there is so much negative energy coming from this and spreading way beyond the region
we decide to send waves of light and love to the Gulf and into troubled hearts everywhere.

Tap through the points

We invoke the universal power of physical healing and spiritual wholeness now

We invoke the power of Mother Earth to clean and restore herself now

We invoke the courage and intelligence and willingness to work together in all people around the world

We open the door to profound change in the Gulf region and everywhere else now

Sending giant waves of love into the Gulf region
Sending giant waves of healing light into the Gulf region

Sending love and healing and courage to Louisiana
Sending love and healing and courage to Mississippi

Sending love and healing and courage Alabama
Sending love and healing and courage to Florida

Sending love and healing and courage all over the country
Sending love and healing and courage all over the world

Compassion, support and healing to the waters of the Gulf
Compassion, support and healing to the ecosystem of the Gulf

Compassion, support and healing to the marine life
Compassion, support and healing to the plants

Compassion, support and healing to the birds
Compassion, support and healing to all animals

Wrapping all the people in the Gulf area who lost so much, in golden light and love.
Sending them courage, perserverance, and spiritual guidance

May this be a lesson we learn well:
Renewing our stewardship of all life on this earth
Pledging to honor and protect all life on this earth

May the blessings be.

created by Carna Zacharias-Miller
www.EmotionalWellnessCoach.com

A final note: this process can be considered a form of surrogate tapping for the environment. At a time when we feel so helpless, it is something that we can do. At a time when we feel such anger and sadness about the tragedy, it is a way to transform that energy into healing care and positive vision. Surrogate tapping is powerful and our combined energies may make a difference. I would love to hear your experiences with this — comments are welcome.

Mary came to me in shock that her boyfriend of 10 years left her. She was devastated. She wanted to do EFT to get in touch with her overwhelming feelings that she’s alone now.

They were living together and she thought that after she finished Law School they would get married and everything was fine. They had some problems that she thought they could work out in therapy like “controlling issues”.

Suddenly, he decided he didn’t want to be in a relationship with her anymore and she just couldn’t believe it. She said “he acted as if nothing was wrong for such a long time”. “He must have been planning this for a while”. She said “I trusted him and didn’t think he was capable of doing this to me”.

He said all the right things to her, “I want to marry you someday and have a house together and a family” but his actions weren’t showing it. She just kept staying with him hoping that the “marriage thing” would happen eventually. He put her through law school and she’s grateful for that, but she was so angry that he never kept his word.

She doesn’t know what happened. How could a man that has been committed to you for so many years and without telling you why, needs to move out? Did he have another woman? Mary didn’t know. Mary was so in shock, depended and looked up to this man as if he was god and could do no wrong.

So here’s how we started out session… we did EFT and tapped on the shock and devastation of him leaving her and the pain was in her gut.

Her shock was way past 10 and crying

(Karate chop point)

The Set-Up Phrase

“Even though I am in shock and devastated that he left me after all these years and I feel it in my gut, I love and accept myself with compassion and kindness.”

“Even though the shock of him leaving me is overwhelming to me and it’s in my gut, I accept all my feelings and who I am.”

“Even though I am completely devastated that he lied all along and left me, I’m doing the best I can to cope given the knowledge I have right now.”

Reminder Phases

• Eyebrow- This shocked and devastated feeling in my gut
• Side of Eye- I still can’t believe he left me
• Under the eye- I trusted him always
• Under the Nose- I stuck by him so many years
• Chin- I’m devastated
• Collarbone- I should of listened to the signals
• Side of ribs- I didn’t see them
• Top of head- Even though I didn’t catch the signals and I’m in shock I love and accept myself anyway.

Mary said it felt good to bring these feelings to the surface. It brought up all kinds of feelings she didn’t even know existed. The tears rolling down her eyes. Still high numbers

We tapped on another aspect (issue) that came up.

“Even though I want to punish him and have him know he lost a good thing, I don’t want to let go of this anger, I love and accept myself anyway”.

“Even though I want to make him suffer because of the pain he put me through, I appreciate and honor all my feelings”.

“Even though I want him to know he lost a good thing when he hears I’m in a great relationship, I accept myself completely”.

• Eyebrow- I want to punish him and suffer
• Side of eye- He lost a good woman
• Under the eye- I’m a great woman
• Under the nose- Didn’t he see that?
• Chin- How dare him not see I’m a great woman
• Collarbone- I’m a great woman and I don’t want him to forget that!

She took a deep breath and I asked her to put her hand on her heart knowing that even though he left her, she is a great woman and will get back on her feet and come to peace about this one moment at a time.

Her numbers went way down. I asked her to place her hands over her gut and she said she felt much better. We continued tapping on “maybe I don’t need to make him suffer”"I’m done with suffering” and a light bulb went on in her head. She realized that she just needs to get on with her life and come to peace with this. Her numbers went all the way down.

I have a client (lets call her Mary), who came to me with a goal to manifest a soul-based relationship who’s ready for love. She said she keeps picking men who are not available now. As I asked Mary some questions, she  started talking about her mother.

Mary won’t let go of the negative memories of how her mother wasn’t there for her growing up.  Mary said she can’t forgive her cause she doesn’t respect her. She said her mom was so clueless about how she was not there for her to soothe her emotions when she was being attacked by her brothers and her father. Her mother would look away. She never stepped in. She was a coward. Mary cried as she told me how painful it was. She cringes when she has to talk to her mother on the phone. She has anxiety. She doesn’t feel safe opening up to her because she feels if she does, she’ll be too much like her and her power will be taken away.

So you can see energetically, Mary still has the trauma from her childhood in her body. And that’s one of the factors of what keeps her stuck, not being able to manifest a loving relationship now.

Mary feels she needs to punish her mother and not let her in because she doesn’t deserve to have a close relationship with her daughter.

So here’s what we tapped on with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique): Her intensity level was a 10.

Karate Chop point

“Even though I’m still angry at mom cause she wasn’t there for me, I love and accept myself anyway”

“Even though she was clueless as to what happened in that house and I can’t forgive her for it, I appreciate all my feelings”

“Even though It doesn’t feel safe to open up to her, she doesn’t deserve it, I accept all parts of me”

• Eyebrow- It’s not safe to open up to her
• Side of eye- I’m still angry”
• Under Eye- She should of known what happened
• Under nose- She looked away
• Chin- I feel neglected
• Collarbone- She was a coward
• Side of ribs- Why wasn’t she there for me?
• Top of head- She should of been there for me

She took a deep breath and we checked her intensity number and it was still up there but it went down to a 8

We kept tapping with EFT on how angry she was that her mother didn’t step up to the plate and stand up for Mary and with each round her intensity level went down.

The last tapping round …

“Even though I have been holding this anger towards my mother for so my years, my mother “didn’t know how” to be there for me and that’s sad, I choose to find a way to be kind, compassionate and be free”

“Even though that was “her best” I appreciate I’m bringing healing to this issue

“Even though I am working on forgiving myself and her and I’m not there yet, I appreciate who I am.”

• Eyebrow- She did her best-(gulp)
• side of eye- I understand that was her best
• under eye- I am working on forgiving her and me
• Under nose- I’m not there yet
• Chin- I’m letting it be ok
• Collarbone-I appreciate the journey I’m on
• Side of ribs- I’m working on compassion for her and me
• Top of head- I look forward to being comfortable in my own skin… I want to be free

I asked Mary to take a deep breath and she said she felt alot better. There are layers and layers to her emotions about how her mother acted when she was growing up. I told her to continue tapping everyday for 5 minutes on any leftover feelings and watch how they energetically release naturally.

If so, make sure you use the intensity scale 0-10 (high intensity of emotion)

I had a client who came to me and she was depressed because she keeps picking men who are emotionally unavailable. The tapping took us to her father who was never there for her. He sometimes not only would emotionally abuse her but also hit her for no reason. She was still angry with him. And it was a ’10′ intensity and she felt it in her stomach.

So we worked on:

“ Even though I’m still angry at my father for not being there for me and I feel it in my stomach, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”

“ Even though I still feel the pain how he abused me…”

“ Even though I remember his face so angry at me when I didn’t do anything wrong that time…”

• Eyebrow- I’m angry at the way he would yell at me
• Side of Eye- I was so scared
• Under Eye- his voice paralyzed me
• Under Nose- there was nothing I could do
• Chin-I was just a little girl
• Collarbone- it wasn’t my fault
• Under Arm- I’m angry that he took advantage of my vulnerability
• Top of Head- His voice sent fear throughout my body
• Eyebrow- I can still feel it now
• Side of Eye- this remaining fear of back then
• Under Eye-its in my body
• Under Nose- I’m so afraid to tell him how I feel
• Chin- he still scares me
• Collarbone- I scare myself that I am still giving him this power
• Under Arm- I’m still giving my power away wanting acceptance
• Top of Head- I just want him to love me

We tapped on a few more rounds and the intensity went down when she started to get perspective that by holding on to still wanting her fathers love wasn’t going to give her peace. She realized that looking for love on the outside doesn’t make her feel better because most probably he will not change. So after we tapped a few more times the energy shifted to “I feel sad that he couldn’t give me what I needed and deserved”. And she moved it into “its time to tend to that little girl and love her completely”. She became the adult to take care of that little girl that had been abandoned all these years. The emotional stomach pain went away.

If you can relate or have a similar story and you want to clear up your stuck feelings in your childhood, email me at : annie@roadtoemotionalfreedom.com and I will help you. Also, get my free “How to do EFT guide” by signing up to the right.

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Love and Light,
Annie